tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post6205634335456079319..comments2023-06-20T05:07:32.843-07:00Comments on Gay Romance: Writing in the Closet (HAHAT - Giveaway)Erica Pikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01410036734790965799noreply@blogger.comBlogger65125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-37912160478427488932014-05-25T17:04:00.133-07:002014-05-25T17:04:00.133-07:00Thank you for your post! I've been writing und...Thank you for your post! I've been writing under my own name from the beginning, and feel very fortunate to be able to do so. It's not something taken for granted.<br />(BarbaraWinkes at hotmail dot com)Barbara Winkeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12795363728054352174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-21594171197145637352014-05-23T18:43:48.609-07:002014-05-23T18:43:48.609-07:00Wonderful post. It's horrible how people hate ...Wonderful post. It's horrible how people hate and use religion to do it.<br />sstrode at scrtc dot comSherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00113368398550173018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-10262155218559090282014-05-23T08:34:41.775-07:002014-05-23T08:34:41.775-07:00Thanks for taking part in the hop!
kimberlyFDR@ya...Thanks for taking part in the hop!<br /><br />kimberlyFDR@yahoo.comKimberlyFDRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01969245120222671022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-89364508507931701942014-05-23T05:53:20.131-07:002014-05-23T05:53:20.131-07:00What a great post! I'm right in that writing c...What a great post! I'm right in that writing closet with you. I have three small kids and, like you, worry about what some might say or do in regards to them. Which is completely ridiculous but it's the world we live in. My choice to write under a pen name came from the extreme close-mindedness of my in laws. It's sad, but their world view is a very strict black and white and if anything deviates outside what they see as right the perpetrator can expect a scathing email and plenty of guilt trips. It's gotten so bad as my MIL calling my husband trying to persuade him to tell me not to pursue writing (I write YA and het. romance under my legal name) because "she knows someone who's marriage was *gasp* ruined because of romance novels". I can only imagine what she'd come up with if she ever found out I wrote M/M as well...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-44851423729013062512014-05-22T22:22:05.336-07:002014-05-22T22:22:05.336-07:00Great post Erica! I started reading romance novels...Great post Erica! I started reading romance novels last year. Until I read one of the BLACK DAGGER BROTHERHOOD books, I hadn't given M/M romance novels much thought. I needed an LGBT book for a reading challenge, so I went to the library and asked about M/M romances. <br /><br />You would have thought that I threatened to burn down the library with reactions that I got from the librarians and the patrons. I was shocked. I can only imagine the response I would have gotten if I said that I was a M/M romance author and wanted to donate one of my books to the library.<br /><br />Keep your kids safe. Keep pushing forward by writing books and supporting other writers.<br /><br />Thanks for hosting the giveaway. I love finding new authors to read. Fingers crossed to win.<br /><br />skeeterlee63 @ gmail.com<br />From Head To Talehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12173167903678843120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-13056688166329029222014-05-21T00:21:53.359-07:002014-05-21T00:21:53.359-07:00I can completely see where you are coming from abo...I can completely see where you are coming from about not publicizing what you write. My husband and sister know what I read but there's no way many of my friends, Facebook or IRL, would understand it. I doubt I'd be ostracized but just knowing I'd be looked at differently makes me stay silent. Mind you, this is only from READING books, I'm not even living the life so many LGBT live! You do whatever you feel you need to keep your kids safe and I applaud you for writing your books and your support!<br /><br />nidabland@msn.comNickihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13288760102894771867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-53665939849286498962014-05-20T19:26:38.187-07:002014-05-20T19:26:38.187-07:00Great post, Erica... good luck and congrats to who...Great post, Erica... good luck and congrats to whoever wins.N.J. Nielsen/ Saddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08913492918924812846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-306113463842928702014-05-20T17:47:04.688-07:002014-05-20T17:47:04.688-07:00Erika, what a great post. I did not know Conchita ...Erika, what a great post. I did not know Conchita was gender neutral...the headlines talked about "drag" which seemed to mean something different. Thanks for pointing this out!<br /><br />As to privacy, I would urge you to keep protecting it. You can always decide later to become public, but (as you know all too well) going public can't become undone. I also keep my writing private, for professional and personal reasons. It's tough when I would like to be more open, but the risks are too great. Maybe later we will be freer. I hope so.<br /><br />Happy HAHAT, and may your good work continue.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17985256585510471811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-89101114107284986072014-05-20T17:33:50.768-07:002014-05-20T17:33:50.768-07:00I can't get over just how much the world is st...I can't get over just how much the world is still in denial, and full of so much hate and bigotry. I was never raised that way, and I never raised my adult children that way. I love supporting the LGBT groups & organizations, and will do so proudly and with love and affection. I hope one day that you will be able to step into the light, and not be made to protect yourself and your children in fear. Wishing you the best...and continued success<br /><br />Darcy<br />Pomma @akwolf.comPommawolf Emeraldwolfeyeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08461210717200887476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-43797798882573815012014-05-20T13:21:26.997-07:002014-05-20T13:21:26.997-07:00Thanks for post and hop. I never thought about dec...Thanks for post and hop. I never thought about decisions authors would have to make about their work because of bias. <br />cvsimpkins@msn.comCorneliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08199342104703124890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-16114044320258984702014-05-20T10:58:05.198-07:002014-05-20T10:58:05.198-07:00Thanks for sharing. I only thought of gay romance/...Thanks for sharing. I only thought of gay romance/erotic lit as a freedom for readers. Certainly would have been the gossip topic in my hometown, if not worse. Protect your family, but please keep writing!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10390722298221346205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-28047793459981928362014-05-20T03:46:05.845-07:002014-05-20T03:46:05.845-07:00Great Post! I've learned so much and your only...Great Post! I've learned so much and your only the first stop! Thanks for the giveaway :)<br /><br />~Rissa~<br />raynman1979(at)yahoo(dot)comRissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05347103282771109923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-80200023308122461262014-05-19T19:17:45.791-07:002014-05-19T19:17:45.791-07:00So far the friends I've told I write gay porn ...So far the friends I've told I write gay porn have been accepting, but then it could be because of the type of scene we're all in. My hubby knows and is OK with it too.<br /><br />penumbrareads(at)gmail(dot)comPenumbrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00994664068397132793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-45361632829701124162014-05-19T18:33:29.274-07:002014-05-19T18:33:29.274-07:00Great post. & haven't read anything by you...Great post. & haven't read anything by you yet. & I get a hard time too from people when they know what kind of books I read.<br /><br />Deborah H<br />Deborahhansen52@yahoo.comDeb :o)https://www.blogger.com/profile/02205968293966212288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-4274780148297709382014-05-19T17:55:21.039-07:002014-05-19T17:55:21.039-07:00Thiis is a great post. I've had both good and...Thiis is a great post. I've had both good and bad reactions when people ask me if I've read any good books lately... and sometimes I'm just silent. But I'm trying to speak up more often.<br /><br />Mhupp20032003(at)yahoo(dot)comMichelle Raehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06099509951180630389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-4874042755480744362014-05-19T06:48:10.321-07:002014-05-19T06:48:10.321-07:00I love this post. I've never really heard &quo...I love this post. I've never really heard "in the closet" applied to readers and writers, but it's very true. I'm going to GRL this year (very excited), but my family and friends only knows that I'm going to a generic "book con" because I'm really not sure how they would react. Thank God for online communities...<br /><br />ashley.vanburen[at]gmail[dot]comAshley Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07689247656658859937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-65248543219593977132014-05-18T21:07:00.648-07:002014-05-18T21:07:00.648-07:00Really great post, no one should hide who they wan...Really great post, no one should hide who they want to be. Glad that Conchita Wurst appared as who he wanted to be and that's gender natural.<br />red_tigergirl2(at)hotmail(dot)comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16042811183697624350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-82336045615937013932014-05-18T19:40:53.409-07:002014-05-18T19:40:53.409-07:00Hi Erica!
First of all, thanks so much for organi...Hi Erica!<br /><br />First of all, thanks so much for organizing this awesome event! I really appreciate your work to organize us authors of LGBT/M/M literature around an extremely important cause.<br /><br />I can relate a bit to what you wrote about. I conquered coming out as gay a while back. I wouldn't say that 'coming out' as an author was nearly as challenging, but there was an aspect of risk to that as well. Everyone knew me as a social worker, not a writer, and I had some fear that people would take me seriously. Then, I wrote a series of books that are a little more graphic sexually, and that stirred my nerves up a bit in terms of how that would be received by family, co-workers and neighbors. It sounds like you're in a much tougher spot, living in a small community, and there are tough decisions to make. I think you have a right to handle things in whatever way feels safe and right for you and your family. Good luck!Andyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09965400351732746441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-87745834455143340832014-05-18T16:11:18.079-07:002014-05-18T16:11:18.079-07:00Hey, Erika. Great post. Thanks for mentioning biph...Hey, Erika. Great post. Thanks for mentioning biphobia, which is rampant from every side, as bisexuality seems easily misunderstood and mischaracterize. And the world... yes, great big holes in the civil rights map.Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10240903337772209934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-85140472540884119712014-05-18T14:03:20.695-07:002014-05-18T14:03:20.695-07:00Lgwilliford@gmail.comLgwilliford@gmail.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06418689169036112072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-43855777331430585882014-05-18T14:02:49.788-07:002014-05-18T14:02:49.788-07:00Wow, you learn daily the just how far hate and pre...Wow, you learn daily the just how far hate and prejudice go in this world. My prayers love and support to all LGBTQ community. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06418689169036112072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-21437213909577880072014-05-18T11:30:38.506-07:002014-05-18T11:30:38.506-07:00Prejudice and discrimination affect so many of us ...Prejudice and discrimination affect so many of us in so many different ways. Thanks for sharing, Erica!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16065150194048374608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-29766348446414270532014-05-18T10:10:11.745-07:002014-05-18T10:10:11.745-07:00Excellent post, Erica. And yes, it can be difficul...Excellent post, Erica. And yes, it can be difficult if decisions like that don't just affect yourself, but also your loved ones.<br />Hugs.Andrew Ashlinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17024333581324342483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-1037387957761048592014-05-18T06:21:47.172-07:002014-05-18T06:21:47.172-07:00Thanks for a great giveaway and highlighting a wor...Thanks for a great giveaway and highlighting a worthy topic. <br /><br />sadie @ sadieforsythe dot comSadieforsythehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15744505728777650782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1474876370737693502.post-53029613088842967782014-05-18T03:26:16.692-07:002014-05-18T03:26:16.692-07:00I do believe that the national media - everywhere ...I do believe that the national media - everywhere - have way too much say and pull. It is a rare day that I even watch news and normally no more then a few minutes at the beginning of the program just to get the highlights. You do what moms should do and put your kids first - good for you.<br />Cinders1964 at hotmail dot comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com