Friday, September 28, 2012

Back to School Bash!

Sure, school started almost a month ago, but we like to throw a bash anyway! Welcome to the No Boundaries Press's Back to School Bash where I'll be offering an e-copy of one of my College Fun and Gays stories. If you already have it, you may choose from one of the other books in this series

I'm supposed to write about my best or worst back-to-school experience from when I was a young girl. I could write about when I insisted to wear make-up in first grade - got teased and never did it again; or when we were given a shot the first day back and I crawled under the table to hide - got teased about it and was first to offer my arm the next time; or when I was waiting to get into the classroom and got a basketball in my face (didn't get teased about that one, but the pain was bad enough). Hey, I like to write optimistic, fun stories, but sadly I don't have too many of those from school. I KNOW I had a good time, because I had friends, but the bad times so outweigh the good because of their severity that I'm having a hard time remembering the good ones.

So I'm writing about my boy-friend (not boyfriend). We used to walk to school together every day for the first few years. We were best friends and despite everything, the first day back to school was always exciting. But there was a dark shadow looming over every day walking to and from school - three or four dark shadows in the form of older boys who lived in the neighborhood. They'd ambush my friend, chase him to school and I'd stand back with galactic fear in my heart every time. I was scared as hell of them. It confused me. I knew he didn't like the beatings, but he laughed when they were chasing him. It wasn't until much later when I read up on bullying that I learned that his behavior is very common among bullied kids, to pretend that they're not afraid and that they're part of the "fun". They did catch him often - and they did on that first day back - beat him up and then gave him a hard time for crying (all three to four of them calling him a crybaby because he got beat up - idiots). This happened day after day for years, starting from the age of six.

I'm probably putting a huge damper on the hop with this story, but this is what pops into my mind when I think "school" in relation to my own childhood. These bullies not only hurt my friend in his past and future; they also hurt me in my past and future. In all my years of therapy, I've been trying to pinpoint the origin of my anxieties and depression. When did I become scared, insecure and anxious? When did I start to worry about people being hurt and people dying? When did start feeling so helpless, like the whole world was big and bad and there was nothing I could do about it? When did I start blaming myself for everything, and when did it start feeling so that everything I tried to do was never good enough? 

It's only recently that I've been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. There have been a number of events that have triggered the PTSD, but watching my friend being bullied by several older guys for years was the the first time I got PTSD, and the one that set my path for more anxiety and insecurity. I learned very early that people are dangerous and that I am but a teeny tiny person.

I've met four of those bullies in my grown-up years (they were six guys all together, but were usually only three-four at a time, always with the same two main bullies). Three of those I've met sent creepy crawlies down my back while I talked with the third (one of the two main bullies) and learned that he's actually a nice guy. He's the only one who doesn't scare me anymore, so I guess people can change.

Okay, onto lighter things. I'm giving away a copy of Hot Hands. Casper, the character in the story, faces his high school bullies in college, after two years away. Much of his internal struggle are feelings I've been dealing with (I was bullied too, by different kids). This is an erotic romance and it was an interesting challenge to write it that way. I also wanted to keep it light with humor so it wouldn't get too heavy with the serious matter of being bullied. Furthermore, I'm currently working on Cold Hands, the second part of the story. 

I will draw, contact and announce the winner on October 2nd. Please leave a comment on this blog post along with your email address.

For weeks, college student Casper has been the victim of sail-by goosing and groping. The problem is that Casper would very much like to get more than groped by those wonderful, big, hot hands. 

With a journal full of clues, he sets out to discover who his mystery groper is. However, he may be in serious trouble once he discovers the ominous identity.

Before we go, I'm inviting you to follow me on my blog (follow button to your right), facebook, Twitter, and newsletter. This is NOT mandatory to take part in the giveaway.

Want a free read? Half-Baked Promises is a free story I wrote for the M/M Romance Group on Goodreads. It can be downloaded in pdf, mobi and ePub :)

Happy hopping!

Wait... Are you looking for the GLBT Madness Hop? Scroll down, or click here. That's right, I'm doing TWO hops at the same time - different prizes. That should burn some calories :O You can take part in both contests, just comment on both posts :)

Please visit the other people taking part in the Back to School Bash:


  1. Yeah, most of my school memories aren't very good either. I was bullied up until college, so I don't have fond memories of school until college. Bullying sucks. Anyways, thanks for sharing!


  2. I think what I remember about school was having a low self-esteem which I covered with a lot of bluster. It sucked more because nobody knew and I had some people treat me like crap cuz they felt that I was confident enough not to be affected by it all. That sucked big time.

    Thanks so much for sharing.

  3. I think I was lucky, I was one of those kids that was ignored in school except for my small circle of friends. Bullying didn't appear to be a big problem in my high school though.

    GFC Anne38

  4. Yeah, the kids treated me like dirt in grade school, too--there were a lot of "mean girl" types. I don't know what the solution is, but it's good to hear people's experiences. Thanks for participating!


  5. I liked what you had to say in the blog. I have blocked out most of my school years. I hope I get to read Hot Hands.

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  6. As a teacher, I teach acceptance and non-bullying to my students. My Social Psychology class is currently producing Anti-bullying PSA's and using organizations such as the Trevor Project to get out the message.

  7. i was bully bait for a few years. but i now kill them off in stories ;o)

  8. I hate to say it but often there are still bullies they are just better disguised.
    debby236 at gmail dot com

  9. I have no Idea what is going on with the world today... but there was only one bully in my whole life of school. Never again, was there this scary person than that one. Especially in high school. I don't know how it got this bad... I just know that in my schools the only bully I ever had was in elementary.
    I think her name was Jennifer, and for some reason she had taken possession of the water fountains, and I remember that when I tried to approach not swayed by her idiocy that the fountains were only allowed to those she chose, she hit me granting me my first black eye... surprising to say, After I stood up to her and the Playground TAs saw she hit me, I never saw her again... lol...
    But really... I loved my school years...


  10. I had such an ordinary school life. I was not bullied and I never bullied anyone either. In fact I don't remember having bullies in my class. We all got along, though I was good friends with only five or six people. We used to party every weekend and smoke in the bathrooms during breaks. Man, those were fun days. Through I must admit that I was probably the most quiet one out of all of us, the "good girl". I even broke the unspoken rule of losing my virginity in the same year as my other girl friends did. LOL

    Thanks for sharing your school experience. I'm sorry you had to go though such hardships :(

  11. I was (and still am) chubby so I got made fun of for that. But I was smart so I stayed with an isolated group of kids.
    Thanks for participating!
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  12. I had a pretty good school experience. I never had just one group of friends I interacted with everyone and I didn't stand for bullying whether it was towards myself (I've always been on the heavy side) or towards others. That's how my parents raised me and I took it to heart.
    Thanks for the awesome giveaway!